Best friend dating your crush
“I think relationships should happen more naturally.If someone isn't in your group, don't add them in just to set them up with someone. SOs don't need to be integrated into the friend group.” Chelsea’s right.My friend had confided in her “best friend” (let’s call her Ali) and woke up four days later to find out—via Facebook—that Ali had asked out the guy and they were dating.Consoling my friend was easy: I told her that Ali wasn’t her friend, she needs to distance herself and needs to remind herself every day that she can’t trust Ali. Let’s play devil’s advocate and assume that Ali isn’t evil, manipulative and doesn’t secretly want to get what her friends want.
“I made the mistake of getting my boyfriend's friend involved, and it lead to my boyfriend asking for a break because it only made things worse,” Megan Mann, a graduate from Purdue University, says.
“I was worried about something, said something to his friend and then it got muddled and the next thing I knew, it was break time.
It makes things REALLY convoluted and shouldn't be a thing.” Listen to Megan and just be straightforward with your crush; let them know what you’re thinking and feeling.
Take it from Chelsea* who had a bad experience with this after connecting one of her friends from high school, Kaitlyn*, with her college best friend, Michael*.
“I really wish I hadn't, because their relationship has been bad for my friendship with both of them,” she says.
It might be kind of uncomfortable, but it will be what’s best for both of you at the end of the day.